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Saturday, December 29, 2012

Men, getting engaged?

A lot of folks got engaged over the Christmas holiday and many more will get engaged during New Year's Eve celebrations. The number one day of the year to get engaged is of course Valentine's Day.
SO LISTEN UP MEN!!!!
There a only a handful of days in a woman's life that she will count as "the best day of my life" and the day you propose marriage to her is right near the top of that list. Her wedding day and the birth of her babies are possibly the only ones that will top the day she gets engaged.
My number one tip and best advice I can offer you is this...know your audience and plan ahead!!!
Is she a sports fan? or is she more of a sunset on the beach kinda gal?
You absolutely must think about what SHE likes and doesn't like before you plan your proposal. And yes! I advise you to plan it. Plan where you'll be and what you'll say. Have a back up plan just in case. If you want it outdoors and it rains, what is plan B? If it's a special restaurant, call in advance (Like weeks in advance. Not the day before) for reservations. What if they're booked? Where will you go instead? And practice what you'll say, out loud. It may come out differently when the time actually arrives but at least you'll have heard it a few times, out loud and you won't be "as" nervous. And you won't choke on your own spit when you open your mouth to speak.
I'm sure occasionally, there are those times when a spontaneous proposal is ok but that is the exception, not the rule. The proposal is just as important as the ring you pick out. At least for the less materialistic lady. Again, is she the rule or the exception to the rule?
You need to know the heart of the woman you wish to spend the rest of your life with.
If she is not a die hard football fan like you are, it's probably NOT the best idea to propose on the big screen (turbotron? what is that big screen/scoreboard thingy called? LOL). See what I mean? How is she going to get excited about it if she doesn't even know what it's called so she can tell her friends about it for years to come? It's only good in the movies most of the time.
Are you 100 million, kabiliion, kazillion percent sure she'll say yes? If you're not that sure, then don't propose in a public setting like in front of all your friends and family or on the big tv, billboard sign thingy at the football game. You do not want to put pressure on her. If she says "yes" just to keep from embarrassing you, she'll have to dump you later and that will suck!!!
Take her Mom, sister or best friend (or all 3 if you can stand to be at the mall with all of them) with you when you pick out the ring. They will know her taste much better than you think you do. If there aren't ANY women you trust to help you pick out the ring, I suggest you keep the following in mind....unless she is a doctor, welder, active duty soldier or other profession where a huge rock on her finger will truly get in the way of things...bigger is better. There are those exceptions that really do just want something simple and understated but in general....go with the bigger rock. And pay attention to the jewelry she already wears. Is it white gold or yellow? Yes, it makes a difference!! Stick with diamonds unless you are SURE she would prefer a different stone. You can't go wrong with a diamond. And when the moment comes to give it to her, don't show her a ring in a box!! Again, that's in the movies. Hold it in your hand as you present it to her. A box is impersonal and blah. I don't know how else to explain it but in the box is just...ugh! Don't do it.
So, bottom line:
Know your lady. Would she prefer the big sign proposal or a quiet romantic spot? Maybe you have a special spot. Your first date? Your first kiss? Sunset is always a good time if you can't come up with any ideas. If you'd like specific ideas you can email me at askauntieann@gmail.com
Take someone with you to pick out the ring. Or go one size bigger than you think. You can't go wrong with a diamond. Know in advance if you're looking for white gold or yellow.
Above all else, PLAN a romantic gesture for the perfect proposal. One she will tell, everyone she knows, for the rest of her life.
As you bend on one knee, hold the ring in one hand while you hold her hand in the other.
Good luck and I wish you many years of wedded bliss!!

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